Love… is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
(1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
Satan seems to be on a rampage, at least in my family.
My adolescent children go to battle daily against one another – these alien beings who once were the closest of friends. Just this morning, there were names and accusations flung without the slightest regard for sanity or the feelings of others.
Words flung like darts, drawing blood, stirring up wrath, and making me question the enormous cost of private school when I could at least be physically present to mediate arguments if they were still home schooled.
Either way, this afternoon I must attend to one of the more unpleasant parental duties. Lord, be my guide…
On a wider scale, there is ongoing conflict in my extended family. Once again, people who love one another now wound and are wounded with brutal words and fiery perspectives.
And all around me, it seems I hear murmurs of anger seething in the undercurrent of society. Social media is engaged for antisocial purposes. Marriages crumble and children are ruined by the shrapnel. Wives mock their husbands. Husbands disparage their wives. Christians do not wait for the adversary’s fiery arrows but inflame one another with an unceasing barrage of “friendly fire” kindled in our hearts.
It is heartbreaking; truly, truly heartbreaking.
Yet through it all, my God speaks to me, reminding me that while I can grieve for the sins of my children or others, I can only repent of my own.
Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall.
(1 Corinthians 10:12)
In the midst of the wreckage, I must not fall into the perilous rut of my own sinful tendencies, responding to anger with more anger.
Now more than ever, love is needed to quench the not only the fires of fury, but also the smoldering coals which lie beneath ready to burst into full flame at the slightest spark.
This morning as I spoke with my Lord about these things, He reminded me of Paul’s letter. I was struck by the very depths of our depravity.
We so rarely act in love.
I so rarely act in love.
I can be irritable. I have been resentful. In the midst of conflict, my tendency is to assume the worst possible motives of the other party.
And my friends, that assumption is nearly always a monstrous lie.
Why is it that we tend to paint our own actions and attitudes in glowing colors, justifying our every wrong by some fault of another, and yet we presume the most diabolical and vicious motives of those around us?
We take everything personally but do not mean anything personal when we are the speaker or doer. We expect mercy for ourselves but are quick to lash out before questioning if our grievance is real or merely perceived.
We carefully store up every offense against us, keeping not only a record of wrong but preserving each complaint as diligently as we would a marvelous treasure, bringing it out from time to time as some twisted talisman of justification.
Church! Today is not the day to stand against our brothers and sisters! Today is the day to stand against evil; to rejoice with the truth; to refrain from bitterness or resentment; to bear all offenses; to believe the best in others; to hope for reconciliation in the Spirit of God; to endure all things – including the exquisite prick of conviction reminding us to purge our own hearts of the ghost of grievances past.
In love, let us assume the best of one another when we speak. Let us embrace forgiveness, remembering the Gracious Redeemer who has forgiven the massive accumulation of wrongs we have each committed against Him.
Where we are wronged, let us search for ways we have wronged others – and repent. Where there are past hurts, let us pray for the power to release them, asking God to heal the poisonous blight of bitterness in our hearts.
And above all else, let us love each other well, striving daily to fill our hearts with the love of the Most High God so our mouths will speak His goodness and praise. Whether husband, wife, child, parent, sibling, or any other relationship, let those of us who are in Christ earnestly seek humble hearts, reserving our most critical judgement for ourselves and choosing to believe in the best intentions of others.
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
(Philippians 2:3)Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!
(Psalms 133:1)
Lord, forgive us and guide us. How we need Your redeeming power in our relationships today! Help us to walk in the only perfect Love the world has ever known and reconcile us with our brothers. May Your grace shine in us and unify us in Christ, amen.
**Before I go, I do want to jot a note that I will soon be offering my first ever book review and giveaway! Today, however, the need to cry out for Love to intervene in some ugly situations eclipsed my heart… Stay tuned!
Running the Race 
This post is on point. We do so need love now more than ever. I agree social media has made the masses antisocial and emboldened people to spew anger and hatred like never before.
I can relate to a lot you have here. There was one point in my life I didn’t trust the motives of most people, I was looking for potential issues with others and never trusting God for the best in them. I am now a bit better where that is concerned. Trying to be humble made me look at my own flaws instead of examining others under a microscope.
May the people of God’s church reconcile with one another that we may then be equipped to fight the enemy. Unfortunately, God’s work often lies undone because we waste time fighting among ourselves.
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Amen! I have also been in the place where I assumed every motivation of others was a sort of personal attack. I cringe to think of it now, and I cringe to think of how quickly I can fall right back into the same dreary trap!
By recalling God’s unbelievable grace on me, my heart is humbled to approach others with His grace as well.
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Your post sets my mind awash in emotions, feelings, and thoughts of how much the church is not behaving as the church these days. Pastors and church leaders that are struggling to be viewed as relevant are taking positions that are not well thought out or in the best case are judgmental and purport to condemn the flock. We live in a sad day and the church is floundering for lack of clear biblical leadership. Thanks!
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Sad but true. I pray frequently for a true revival to sweep through the Church!
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Such important truth! Thanks for writing!
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Thanks for stopping by!
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You nailed it! Excellent post! ❤
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Thanks tons for your encouragement!!
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Lord, I pray for Heather. That you would continue to search her God and know her heart, test her and know her anxious thoughts, seeing if there is any offensive way in her and thank you lord that you will lead her in the way everlasting. Lord you know her family, the ins and outs and everything in between, Heather can trust that you love her, because she is your daughter and that you will never leave her, especially when things are crap or appear to much to handle. Amen
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Thank you so much! Amen and amen again! 🙂
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Going through this post again, I can appreciate that the solution you put forward is “Love”. Really, “God’s Love” is the answer. Someone may ask: how is Love the answer? Here are my reasons.
Proverbs 10:12:
Hatred, stirreth up strifes, but, over all transgressions, love throweth a covering.
1 Peter 4:8
And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.
When contentions abound, past offenses dug up and scars suddenly become fresh wounds, scriptures take note that it is hatred that is a work.
Love pursues restoration and reconciliation. Love is a protective covering for those who are weak.
It turns out that treating others the way we would love to be treated may not be that easy after all. We will all require a good deal of self sacrifice to treat others right.
Let us turn to Lord Jesus. In the first place, He is the One who should be living through us, not us trying to live like Him. When Lord Jesus lives through us, it is Him meeting His own demands…who else can do it better?
More of Lord Jesus to you Dear Heather.
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Going through this post again, I can appreciate that the solution you put forward is “Love”. Really, “God’s Love” is the answer. Someone may ask: how is Love the answer? Here is my reason.
Proverbs 10:12:
Hatred, stirreth up strifes, but, over all transgressions, love throweth a covering.
1 Peter 4:8
And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.
When contentions abound, past offenses dug up and scars suddenly become fresh wounds, scriptures take note that it is hatred that is a work.
Love pursues restoration and reconciliation. Love is a protective covering for those who are weak.
It turns out that treating others the way we would love to be treated may not be that easy after all. We will all require a good deal of self sacrifice to treat others right.
Let us turn to Lord Jesus. In the first place, He is the One who should be living through us, not us trying to live like Him. When Lord Jesus lives through us, it is Him meeting His own demands…who else can do it better?
More of Lord Jesus to you.
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Absolutely! I echo your prayer, “Let us turn to the Lord Jesus. In the first place, He is the One who should be living through us, not us trying to live like Him.” Amen!!
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